A Hidden Gem: The Prostate

The prostate is a gem hidden away in the backdoor of biologically born males. It's special because of its power to intensify pleasure and up an orgasm- and because of it’s near off-grid reputation. It's a hidden secret for most prostate holders, most are largely unaware of this critical organ and gateway to mind blowing sex. But it doesn't have to, nor should it, be this way.

Sex toy inventor and Hot Octopuss founder Adam Lewis reports to Vice.com that, “ [a prostate orgasm] is a much more intense experience, lasts longer, and would be more heightened than your traditional orgasm.” Don't miss out, read on...

The prostate is hidden in the dark, unseen, and likely undiscovered. Naturally, it's often unmarked territory and prompts questions. What is it? Where exactly is it? How do you use it to heighten pleasure and result in an orgasm? Are there risks? Some may have barely encroached on this hidden pathway in complete privacy. Or, more often than you'd think, a partner in bed may have snuck a finger there, leaving you feeling, well, a little confused...a little intrigued. A certain stigma may also exist serving as a barrier to uncovering the prostate experience. It's important to remember sexual acts are separate from one’s sexual orientation.

What is it? The prostate is a gland that plays a role in producing seminal fluid. It grows larger with age, which may make it easier to locate in older adults. It's connected to the penis, but unlike the penis it isn't exposed to the outside environment, and therefore is not as desensitized from constant sensation. In this way, the prostate may be more reactive to touch, resulting in a different, reportedly better, type of orgasm.

Where is it? According to MedicaNewsToday.com, “the prostate is a walnut-sized organ inside the rectum and just under the bladder. It wraps around the urethra, which is the tube that drains urine from the bladder.” If you place a finger about 2-4 inches deep into the anus and curl the tip of your finger slightly up towards the belly button, and reach a slight bulge that is rough in texture (compared to the smooth lining of the rectum), you've found your prostate. Congrats, you've located your prostate!

Now, you may not feel as excited as I am for you right now, especially if you’re brand spankin’ new to this whole act. This is foreign, and it's natural to feel a bit nervous. You're on new territory and might feel the need to urinate (due to the proximity of the prostate to the bladder). The realm of the prostate will reveal more to you...much more than feeling like you might literally piss yourself. If you or your partner are feeling a bit apprehensive, you can indirectly locate it by pushing upward on the skin between the testicles and the butt (also known as the perineum).

Stimulating the prostate to achieve an orgasm is a much slower, softer process, at least for most people new to the process. In the beginning, just a slow curling of the tip of a finger, application of pressure, and gentle prodding of the prostate will suffice to lead to an eventual climax. If desired, one can up the game by stimulating the penis while performing the massage. Prostate toys exist too! They are designed to hit just the right spot. Some vibrate, rotate, or even utilize a flicking motion to provoke the prostate into giving up its secret pleasure powers.

The risks: the risks are relatively low. Just make sure the hands doing the fingering are washed thoroughly before and after the fact. A glove or finger condom may be applied for added hygiene and a sense of security. Additionally, it's a good idea to empty the bowels a couple of hours beforehand and wipe the outside clean. Douching is good too, and more thorough if performed correctly, but it's not entirely necessary.

Prostate massage can be done alone or with a partner. Both approaches are great, but you may feel more comfortable starting alone. If you're on the receiving end, it's important to be communicative. Let your partner know if the pressure is too strong or if they need to lean in a little harder. If you're the one giving the massage, make sure to be present and ask questions to encourage trust and clarity through the process. The more informed you are on this process, the better you and the receiver will feel. You want your partner to be as relaxed and comfortable as possible. The resulting orgasm will be better for it- trust me.

Well, there you have it. Find your hidden gem and unlock the best kept secret in sex: prostate orgasm.

What're you waiting for? Backdoor Bliss awaits...

Sources:

Tsjeng, Zing. How to Give Someone a Prostate Orgasm, 13 Dec. 2018, www.vice.com/en/article/9k48z3/how-to-give-prosta...

Villines , Zawn. “Prostate Milking: Definition and How to Do It.” Medical News Today, MediLexicon International, 18 June 2020, www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/prostate-milkin...